It's shocking the first time you hear that, but it happens more often than you think. My middle school internship was at a very poor school. I was the only adult male in the school, other than the janitor, principal, and one PE teacher. One of the Elementary teachers (2nd grade) asked me if I would mind coming to her class one day and read something to the kids. I went and was shocked at how much they craved something like that. I asked the teacher about it and she said most of them don't get that kind of attention at home. I then made it a point to go down during my planning block everyday and read to them. Once I started teaching I carried that on. I walked across the parking lot to the Elementary school and made it a point to come in an read to different classes.
As far as how do you go about getting the parents involved, I haven't a clue. I would ask the parents, some were willing, some were not. I had some that were borderline C students and knew that they could do better. I would call their parents and talk to them about it. Like I said, some cared enough to get involved and some didn't. THS might have a better idea on this, he still teaches.
The school will never have the ability to get parents more involved in their kids' lives. It's a societal issue, and quite honestly, it's the worst in our nation's history. I firmly believe that as many veteran teachers that I work with have said they've noticed a drastic change in the kids over the last five-seven years. Guess what really kicked in about five-seven years ago? No Child Left Behind.
No Child's a great idea (in theory like everything else) because it reaches out to many children who are usually cast aside as a failure and a reject. However, when you give TOO much help, they don't learn how to cope on their own. They expect an extra hand in every aspect of life. They expect to be given an excuse and a free pass not just on their reading test but also in discipline problems, money problems, social problems, etc.
Then, to add on, these handouts and excuses are passed on to the other non-special needs children in the room. Because you're putting special ed, ESL, and emotionally disturbed children in the same room as them, naturally, the inclusion teacher is going to offer help to all kids in the room. Not to mention, when Billy sees Alex getting extra help on a test or project or assignment, he's not going to understand why he doesn't receive that extra help.
And finally, to the main point, this extra help extends to the parents. The parents suddenly see an opportunity to relinquish their responsibility of their children. The inclusion teacher will make sure their kid has good grades. The regular students are getting extra help too. It's not necessarily a wrong on the parents - especially if they are young parents or inexperienced parents. They're used to seeing their kid (special needs or not) receive a lot of extra help from the time they're in kindergarten or 1st grade.
We're living in an era where a kid who doesn't learn to write his letters in 1st grade isn't given a failing score. He's not told he has to learn how to write letters or else he won't move up to the 2nd grade. He's not scolded or punished. He's not corrected. He's not forced to practice his letters during recess. He's not taken out of the school play or kicked off the t-ball team. What happens is the teacher, the administration, and the parents sit in a meeting and ask, "Why can't this kid learn to write his letters?" Because it's not his fault. It can't be. It has to be some other reason. He needs extra help even if he's not special ed. He needs the teacher to accomodate him so that he doesn't fall behind.
Parents come to expect the "Why can't my kid..." question to be answered by the school. And so we have a generation of kids and parents who don't think the responsibility is on their shoulders. It's all about the teachers, principals, and counselors.
The truth is that the parents are more important than the teachers regarding the success of their child in school. I've had enough empirical evidence to make me 100% believe that.
/Rant