I could use a little advise

[dallaswareagle]

As you know my wife's Mother passed away last year and we got hit with some out-of-pocket expenses that we took care of. All the family members said they would spilt the cost with us and two of three have. She has one brother who has said he would pay but has not. It has been 3 months since everything went down. Now we aren't taking a lot of money, $625.00 per family member. But I am pissed that he won't pay soooooooooooooo. I am thinking about sending an E-mail thanking the family members who have paid and calling him out and basically calling him a scumbag (they have not paid on something else that was for her mom)

Mrs. Dallas is not close the her brothers but does maintain contact with them.

I don't care about the $625.00 I just want my pound of flesh.

Send it or let it go?

[Snaggletiger]

Have you followed up with something to him?  Text...email?  Give him one last shot with a "Friendly reminder about the $625.00".  If no response, not even an excuse or asking for more time, I say fire away.

[Kaos]

Having been through this numerous times you will gain nothing by calling him out. 

When you loan money to family - which is in essence what you did -or friends you should do so with no expectation of ever being paid back. When you are paid consider it a surprise. 

Calling him out just ends up with you being painted as the asshole. He will become a sympathetic figure and you are the mean bastard picking on him.

Ask him privately. Expect indignation. Then forget about it.  Then don't do like I've been stupid enough to do. Don't give him anything else. 

[Saniflush]

Put the ball in mommas court. 
And when you are done with that let her handle it.  It's her family.  Let her decide how shitty to be.

[dallaswareagle]

Have you followed up with something to him?  Text...email?  Give him one last shot with a "Friendly reminder about the $625.00".  If no response, not even an excuse or asking for more time, I say fire away.

He doesn't get Text or have an E-mail, I have to send everything through his wife's e-mail. I have sent her e-mails asking when I can expect to receive payment and I get no answer.

[dallaswareagle]

Having been through this numerous times you will gain nothing by calling him out. 

When you loan money to family - which is in essence what you did -or friends you should do so with no expectation of ever being paid back. When you are paid consider it a surprise. 

[b]Calling him out just ends up with you being painted as the asshole. [/b]He will become a sympathetic figure and you are the mean bastard picking on him.

Ask him privately. Expect indignation. Then forget about it.  Then don't do like I've been stupid enough to do. Don't give him anything else.

They already think of me as the asshole because I asked for them to pay their  fair share. I have quit loaning money to her side of the family as we have to chase them down to get re-paid. The brother I am talking about hasn't worked (lazy) in over 5 to 6 years so I don't think they see him as a sympathetic figure, but the E-mail I have composed will carpet bomb me from the family. (not that I care)

[WiregrassTiger]

Friendly reminder...if you think he has the ability to pay now or over a couple of months. Then, let it go. And I normally get $50 for solicited advice. I am only going to charge you $49. No checks please.

[dallaswareagle]

Friendly reminder...if you think he has the ability to pay now or over a couple of months. Then, let it go. And I normally get $50 for solicited advice. I am only going to charge you $49. No checks please.

I guess a zero balance then.

[Pell City Tiger]

Friendly reminder...if you think he has the ability to pay now or over a couple of months. Then, let it go. And I normally get $50 for solicited advice. I am only going to charge you $49. No checks please.

Send the bill to his deadbeat brother-in-law. Tell him he only owes $576 now. Maybe he'll pay you since you haven't pissed him off like his sister's husband.

I get 15%, with 19.99% interest compounded monthly. I suggest you get to collectin' - you're on the clock startiiiiiinnnnngggg NOW!

[AWK]

Advice.

[DnATL]

Advice.

fixt

maybe your BIL doesn't understand English, gringo?

[djsimp]

Put the ball in mommas court. 
And when you are done with that let her handle it.  It's her family.  Let her decide how shitty to be.

It only takes one time of not following this simple rule to understand how much truth there is to this.

[WiregrassTiger]

Send the bill to his deadbeat brother-in-law. Tell him he only owes $576 now. Maybe he'll pay you since you haven't pissed him off like his sister's husband.

I get 15%, with 19.99% interest compounded monthly. I suggest you get to collectin' - you're on the clock startiiiiiinnnnngggg NOW!

Hey, I didn't solicit this. I have solicited before, mind you, but not this advice.

[dallaswareagle]

Put the ball in mommas court. 
And when you are done with that let her handle it.  It's her family.  Let her decide how shitty to be.

Sound Advice except she doesn't give a shit about the money, she would just soon be done with the whole thing ( emotionally thinking)   To me it is becoming the principal of the thing.

[djsimp]

Sound Advice except she doesn't give a shit about the money, she would just soon be done with the whole thing ( emotionally thinking)   To me it is becoming the principal of the thing.

You just answered your own question.

[dallaswareagle]

You just answered your own question.

You people are starting to suck. I WANT BLOOD.

[Pell City Tiger]

You people are starting to suck. I WANT BLOOD.

I hear you, brother. $625 is nothing to sneeze at. I know a couple of goons who would possibly make a visit just to keep the rust from seizing up their ass kicking skills. You probably wouldn't get the money back, but you'd have the satisfaction of seeing this dead beat eating his meals through a straw for several weeks.

[Buzz Killington]

If you can get up to Walker County you could have a hit put on him for $50

[dallaswareagle]

I hear you, brother. $625 is nothing to sneeze at. I know a couple of goons who would possibly make a visit just to keep the rust from seizing up their ass kicking skills. You probably wouldn't get the money back, but you'd have the satisfaction of seeing this dead beat eating his meals through a straw for several weeks.

And the thing is it's not the money. The is the second thing that he has bailed on that everybody just let slide, of course we were out the money, I know I am not going to get the money.

I'll give it another a month and if by the end of April I still feel the same way I am sending the E-mail. I truly, really don't give a fuck what her family thinks of the white boy.

[Saniflush]

And the thing is it's not the money. The is the second thing that he has bailed on that everybody just let slide, of course we were out the money, I know I am not going to get the money.

I'll give it another a month and if by the end of April I still feel the same way I am sending the E-mail. I truly, really don't give a fuck what her family thinks of the white boy.

I can tell you where to drop the chalupa.