A few things based on what I've gathered...
Equipment you should try out:
Irons:
Any iron that has a lot of offset. Avoid "blade" irons at all costs right now.
Stick to irons that have a Regular shaft. Something in a dynamic gold series. Rifle series are okay, just ensure they are regular. Overall, even their "regular" shafts can be a little more rigid. Avoid graphite like Tailgate said.
Buy a used set. There's no reason to spend full brand new retail price because they look shiney and new.
Woods:
Go graphite shafts, even regular if you can manage it. This will help you with tempo. Besides stubbing your club and hurting your elbow, it sounds like you might need to slow down and practice tempo. Regular shafts will help with this.
Bigger head is fine, but really, just find one that you feel comfortable over the ball with. Find a head with a little more loft on it. Something at least at 9.5 or higher. No more than 10.5. Unless you're just a total pussy, or 65 years old, you don't need an 11 degree. You're teetering on women's clubs there.
Get a decent set of fairway woods. Get a 15 degree 3 wood, and a 19 degree 5 wood.
Hybrids do NOT replace fairway woods. A #3 refers to replacing your 3 iron, not 3 wood. It is generally in the 18/19 range and 10x easier to hit than a 3 iron. Get a 22 degree #4 hybrid. You'll love it.
Wedges, Putters...
All comfort...
JMO....but this is the direction I'd send someone trying to get comfortable in their game, without spending big money, and without putting them in clubs that will potentially frustrate the shit out of them.