A Wife Admits Why She Killed Her Marriage's Sex Life

Townhallsavoy · « **on:** July 08, 2014, 07:12:25 PM »

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Yesterday I read an article on Thought Catalog called I Am In A Sexless Marriage, This Is What I Am Begging Young Men To Consider Before They Get Married. Iâ€™m not the woman in the story, but it is similar to my own situation so I wanted to share my story, what itâ€™s like to be the woman in this scenario.

My husband and I had a great sex life when we were dating, it was fun, new, and exciting. It made me feel desired and loved the way he always wanted me. Looking back, I know that that was what I enjoyed about our sex life, not the sex itself. The few times I did initiate sex, it was because I knew he would like that. Our sex life was about attracting him and making him happy, not a reflection of something I truly wanted.

I thought this was how all women feel. It might be, but I can only speak for myself. I thought, I guess, as harsh as it seems to say this out loud, that sex was one of many things women do to find a great guy that is completely unrealistic to keep up with for the rest of your life: dressing up every single time you see him, not bothering him with your problems, always trying to seem fun and sexy and attractive, and â€” always being up for sex.

The truth is, sex isnâ€™t that interesting to me. For the first few years of marriage I managed to keep it up to once a week or once every two weeks but then we had our first child and all the energy I had to put into making my husband happy was now being spent on her. I have no idea how other women do this. I worked part time as a receptionist at a clinic to help with our bills but allow me to spend most of my time with the baby and I managed to make dinner almost every night and keep our house clean and our bills paid. There simply wasnâ€™t any more time or energy to do anything. So our sex life dropped to basically zero until we started trying for another kid. We both wanted more than one and even though our sex life wasnâ€™t in a great place, we still love each other. Sex isnâ€™t everything.

I give my husband a lot, I canâ€™t imagine he would be this upset because Iâ€™m not super human.

He has two beautiful children, he has hot meals that I make him, he has a clean home and a clean bed to sleep in. Iâ€™m at capacity giving him these things, I didnâ€™t know not being a sex maniac at the end of all my long days was enough for someone like him (the author of this article) to be so upset. Itâ€™s not that heâ€™s suddenly put on weight or become unattractive, Iâ€™ve never been a shallow person so I judge him as a loving, generous man and I think heâ€™s very handsome. At this point we havenâ€™t had sex probably in maybe three years. I feel perfectly content and happy with our life.

Itâ€™s just that there simply isnâ€™t enough of me to do everything I do and be his sex kitten. Iâ€™m doing all I can and this should be enough for him. He married me and he made a vow to love me for better or worse and it seems very petty and immature for him to complain about a lack of sex when I have given him everything else.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/anonymous/2014/07/im-the-woman-that-stopped-sleeping-with-her-husband-completely-heres-why/

bottomfeeder · « **Reply #1 on:** July 08, 2014, 07:26:12 PM »

"Wives should submit to their husbands"

smooth_operator · « **Reply #2 on:** July 08, 2014, 07:29:58 PM »

Man seriously?

Is this real life? I'm staying single

dallaswareagle · « **Reply #3 on:** July 09, 2014, 08:48:35 AM »

Quote from: smooth_operator on July 08, 2014, 07:29:58 PM

Man seriously?

Is this real life? I'm staying single

Marriage is not the problem. Kids are. From my married friends, Take your sex/Happy life and divided by 2 when you have 1 kid and continue to divide by 1/2 for every kid.

I know some folks thrive for kids, me and Mrs. didn't want any, there just not keen enough.

Ogre · « **Reply #4 on:** July 09, 2014, 09:06:01 AM »

If she thinks that he hasn't had sex in three years she is stupid.

War Eagle!!! · « **Reply #5 on:** July 09, 2014, 09:11:26 AM »

She sounds like a spoiled selfish bitch. I have no other time or energy because I have a part time job to "help" pay the bills and I cook and clean? Get the fuck out of here...

This is the most irrational excuse about anything that I have ever read...fuck this woman...

WiregrassTiger · « **Reply #6 on:** July 09, 2014, 09:26:49 AM »

Quote from: War Eagle!!! on July 09, 2014, 09:11:26 AM

...fudge this woman...

This is the problem. She won't let you.

Token · « **Reply #7 on:** July 09, 2014, 09:35:23 AM »

Quote from: smooth_operator on July 08, 2014, 07:29:58 PM

Man seriously?

Is this real life? I'm staying single

I told you in a drunken text message a few weeks ago what you should do. Yes, I was hammered, but it was the truth.

Buzz Killington · « **Reply #8 on:** July 09, 2014, 09:44:14 AM »

Quote from: Ogre on July 09, 2014, 09:06:01 AM

If she thinks that he hasn't had sex in three years she is stupid.

Truf

Snaggletiger · « **Reply #9 on:** July 09, 2014, 09:50:46 AM »

I just don't get this mind set at all. After I go to the office for half a day to surf the X, then play 18 holes at RTJ in the heat, have a few beers at the club house, go to dinner and then come home to sit on the couch, drink and watch TV til bed time.....I am NOT too tired for sex. Women are so damn selfish.

Token · « **Reply #10 on:** July 09, 2014, 09:56:11 AM »

Quote from: Ogre on July 09, 2014, 09:06:01 AM

If she thinks that he hasn't had sex in three years she is stupid.

And she should be ok with this.

dallaswareagle · « **Reply #11 on:** July 09, 2014, 10:03:46 AM »

Quote from: Snaggletiger on July 09, 2014, 09:50:46 AM

I just don't get this mind set at all. After I go to the office for half a day to surf the X, then play 1 18 holes at RTJ in the heat,2 have a few beers at the club house, go to dinner and then come home to sit on the couch, drink and watch TV til bed time.....I am NOT too tired for sex. Women are so damn selfish.

1. How do you play golf with only one ball?
2. NO drinking on the course-not real golf.

Snaggletiger · « **Reply #12 on:** July 09, 2014, 10:08:30 AM »

Quote from: dallaswareagle on July 09, 2014, 10:03:46 AM

1. How do you play golf with only one ball?
2. NO drinking on the course-not real golf.

1. I'm just that good.
2. Golf-Drinking-Goes without saying.

dallaswareagle · « **Reply #13 on:** July 09, 2014, 10:14:11 AM »

Quote from: Snaggletiger on July 09, 2014, 10:08:30 AM

1. I'm just that good.
2. Golf-Drinking-Goes without saying.

We need to try and get in 18.

And then tee off.

Godfather · « **Reply #14 on:** July 09, 2014, 10:48:19 AM »

Quote from: Token on July 09, 2014, 09:35:23 AM

I told you in a drunken text message a few weeks ago what you should do. Yes, I was hammered, but it was the truth.

Yes you should listen to Token and suck as much cock as he has.

Godfather · « **Reply #15 on:** July 09, 2014, 10:50:02 AM »

Quote from: dallaswareagle on July 09, 2014, 08:48:35 AM

Marriage is not the problem. Kids are. From my married friends, Take your sex/Happy life and divided by 2 when you have 1 kid and continue to divide by 1/2 for every kid.

I know some folks thrive for kids, me and Mrs. didn't want any, there just not keen enough.

Allow me to introduce you to DJSimp you obviously have never met him, his nickname is Rabbit.

Buzz Killington · « **Reply #16 on:** July 09, 2014, 10:53:11 AM »

Quote from: Token on July 09, 2014, 09:56:11 AM

And she should be ok with this.

Another truf

WiregrassTiger · « **Reply #17 on:** July 09, 2014, 12:27:25 PM »

In actuality, if we saw a pic of this lady, I'm thinking it would look like she's pulling a trailer behind her when she walks. I'm envisioning a big ass woman, much bigger than the gal in Shallow Hal.

Godfather · « **Reply #18 on:** July 09, 2014, 01:00:12 PM »

Quote from: WiregrassTiger on July 09, 2014, 12:27:25 PM

In actuality, if we saw a pic of this lady, I'm thinking it would look like she's pulling a trailer behind her when she walks. I'm envisioning a big ass woman, much bigger than the gal in Shallow Hal.

I'm all about that bass

Token · « **Reply #19 on:** July 09, 2014, 01:02:02 PM »

Quote from: WiregrassTiger on July 09, 2014, 12:27:25 PM

In actuality, if we saw a pic of this lady, I'm thinking it would look like she's pulling a trailer behind her when she walks. I'm envisioning a big ass woman, much bigger than the gal in Shallow Hal.

Exactly. If she still looked sexy, she would still feel sexy. And if she felt sexy, she would be spreading it like peanut butter. Either on him, or someone else.