Just a question of curiousity about this seeming one way street thing...do women feel any responsibility for getting us there?
This one does. But the degree of responsibility varies with the amount of reciprocity involved. If my world has been rocked, or if I am 99% sure that barring a catastrophe, it will be rocked in the near future, I want nothing more than to return the favor. And considering that men generally want it more frequently than women do, if the ratio of rocking to being rocked is a decent one, then yeah, bring it.
But if a guy comes home from work, ignores me, watches Star Trek for four consecutive hours, and then waits until I am settled into bed with a good book to start acknowledging my presence and rubbing his wood all over me, then the answer would be a resounding NO. (For reference, see "Husband, Ex-, 1999, The Dampening Effect of A Star Trek Marathon on Marital Intimacy and Willing Conjugation, pp 34-78)