Not to fuck up you guys' butt hurt party but Marcel's mother had been that sick for the past 2 years. Take that for what its worth but to me it means something.
If you've had a loved one who was on death's door for more than a year or so than you know what I'm about to say. What you need to tell that person and what you need to hear from that person has long since been covered. Most people even begin a part of the grieving process while the person is still alive. At least that's what I've experienced. Even when what you need to say and need to hear has been said and heard you still want to be there when it finally is the end, I'm sure Marcel wishes he was there when it was his mother's end too. He's far from the only person who wasn't there when a loved one passed, it's pretty hard to tell when it's going to happen. A person very close to me had a stroke last year and they told us when they were taking him off the ventilator as all options had far passed. We knew the exact time he was going to be off the ventilator. With no brain activity and no signs of life he lasted hour after hour after hour. We waited and waited for his body to pass. Given that Marcel's mother was actually functioning, there's no way he could've possibly known it was gonna happen when it did. I'm sure he feels awful and will probably continue to feel that way for a very long time. Just as all the others do, myself included.